relays

windows stopped working, alarm not working, power locks not working, and keyless entry not working. I read that is could be a relay. I need help identifying which relay it runs these ? see pic

Someone please help!! Daughter has a 2004 a turbo gas beetle convertible. While driving down the road the headlights may flicker, one headlight goes out then the next one? Pretty scary for anyone but especially for a 17 year old girl. The dash lights stay on, tail lights stay on but no head...